I'm tired; I have nothing to say; I have no stories to tell. We spent most of the evening sitting in silence, him glancing at the baseball game at the bar and me people watching. Occasionally, a story came to mind. I relayed a play-by-play of our toddler's antics from earlier in the day; we laughed and returned to our silence. By the end of the date, I wondered -- after 5 years and 2 kids, were our children all we had in common?
We married young. I just turned 20 and he was only two years older. We were babies, and we were having our own babies not long after that. So much has changed in our life in the short time since we were married. Some experts believe that more personality change happens during the 20s than any other decade of our life. At 26, I could see how this would be true. When our second baby arrived a year ago, my husband and I had been married for five years. We were both in the midst of a career change and we weren't the same people who said "I do" at the altar of his childhood church.
It's been a little more than a year since our first post-baby date, and not a lot has changed. We just celebrated year six this weekend and I'm still finding myself fumbling for talking points at dinner or during a long drive. I worry sometimes that time and motherhood has made me boring. Has all this personality change been good or has it made me a dull date night companion?
What else can I say besides something about the worst diaper change ever or that cute thing our baby did while he was at work?
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It's not any one person's fault that our marriage sometimes feels like it's been reduced to conversations concerning childcare, chores, and money. The last several years have been incredibly full, but they've been full of good things -- new babies, long awaited new jobs, a new home. Still, these things monopolize our time, energy, and attention, and more often than not our time alone consists of dozing on the couch before heading to bed early.
Here's the thing -- it's not as bad as it seems. Children aren't a bad thing to have in common. We built this family together and so, of course, the nature of our relationship was bound to evolve after their arrival. It's completely acceptable if my marriage is less exciting during those seasons of life. I'm not insecure in my marriage.
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I know my husband is committed to loving me for the long haul. I know he's on my team for good even when I'm too tired to form a coherent sentence.
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Perhaps, his Mrs. But you better bet he'll never live this one down. Spouses know how to blow each other's confidence. Over the years, they question the other's competence, industriousness, and their talent at even the little things. This rock song walks you through the basics of confidence-busting:. In this remorseful song, a married couple recalls all the magic that has disappeared from their long-term marriage. The flowers, the singing each other love songs, and the talking about forever?
Now after sharing some late night wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am, she complains that " you just roll over and turn out the light. Sign in or sign up and post using a HubPages Network account. Comments are not for promoting your articles or other sites. When I was growing up, my family didn't listen to country music until we moved to South Carolina.
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Country was the predominant music genre there, of course, and I took an immediate liking to it. The wife of my father's boss used to sing to my brother, sister, and I all kinds of old country songs like Tammy Wynette's "Stand By Your Man" and we would giggle through the whole thing because she was so terrible. She would often pick out songs with punch lines to them because she assumed we were snickering at the lyrics. But her voice was as awful as her passion for singing was strong. I can just imagine her singing the Squaw song.
Oh wow! This one is right up my alley, My favorite on here is "You're No Good". Another good one for this is collection is "Before Charlie gets home" this is an old one I have it on an old "78" record and that player doesn't play any more. Hahaha Boy, Flourish, you found some humdingers for this playlist! I usually know almost all of the songs on your playlists but you've introduced so many I've never heard before here.
I can't believe some of these are real slngs, but they are perfect for those of us who have been married too long. Married too long can bring up these songs in one's head. You thought of all songs and I am glad I don't have to look at my marriage in that way. That is some impressive list. So sad that many first true love romances cannot last the test of time. Sorry so long in responding John - Haha, as can I.
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Flourish and I have been married 27 years. Livin' the dream. These are great, Flourish. I have been married 34 years now so can relate to a few of them Linda - Great addition. I'll add it! I tried to mix it up a little, especially since so many of the country songs were satirical or obscure.
Glad you enjoyed this. I loved putting it together. Have a great weekend. Flourish - May I add one more to the list? I laughed when I saw the title of this hub, and most of these are pretty funny, but then I saw on the list "Broken Together" by Casting Crowns. It is absolutely impossible to listen to that song without weeping. And then watch the video. I love the mix of humour and seriousness in this article.
You've created yet another interesting and enjoyable playlist hub, Flourish. MsDora - My dad started saying the punchline or refrain of this song in a teasing way to my mother months ago. We didn't know it was an actual song. Of my brother, sister and I, one of us was offended, another thought he'd lost his marbles and the third wanted to know who was the ugliest. Flourish, number 14 takes the cake I'm listening to it.
The titles are all so interesting, though I don't know these songs. I also like your commentary on your grandparents' photo. Enjoyable as always. Bill - That is a fabulous addition. I'm adding it at the first opportunity I get. Then along came no. I don't know why, but the first one that came to mind, for me, is "You're No Good" by Linda Rondstadt I did think of "Remind Me" second, though, so I was close.
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Over the decades two people learn everything there is to know about each other experience body changes that aren't always pretty may focus on career and self rather than one another could struggle with infidelity and deal with issues of power and control, nagging and bickering. Humorous Songs. If he's not dead, he sure will be by the time he walks in that door: There must be a real good reason why he ain't home yet There must be a real bad wreck slowing him down. And it only gets funnier from there. We all know that women usually rule the roost: I don't take no crap from anybody else I wear the pants around here When I say "jump" you say, "Yeah, right!
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